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5.對不起，你真的不懂我！｜“貼標簽”會給愛情帶來什麽
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6.我精心準備了禮物，對方卻說我不懂她｜愛的五種語言
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7.40%的人表示，養貓後成了單身｜關於“陌生情境測驗”的研究
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8.吵架後的**，比平時更快樂？｜心理學解讀 “憤怒的**”
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9.伴侶**，是對我不滿意嗎？｜正經性科普
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PART 4
好好再見：分手的課題
1.相愛和分手的原因，其實是同一個｜伴侶扮演的三種角色
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2.做到這六件事，我們就複合｜心理學如何看待“藕斷絲連”
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3.史上最催淚研究：戒掉前任，跟戒掉毒癮一樣痛｜無痛分手可能嗎？
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4.如果有 “忘情水”，你會喝嗎？｜如何從糟糕的記憶中走出來
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5.被甩之後，三年不敢談戀愛｜如何走出自卑式單身？
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6.精神出軌 vs. 肉體出軌｜兩性間嫉妒的奧秘
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7.每次說分手，都想讓你多愛我一點｜科學解讀 “虐心戀愛”
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