第一次檢視
何謂喜悅
練習（一）
練習（二）
小結
進度檢視
當你完成本部分的練習後，你將會學到：
喜悅地付出
了解到在付出的同時會有著喜悅的心態
第一次檢視
這是第一次測試，請你在完成了喜悅的練習後再度來到此頁完成檢視。
1．當我付出時，我有什麽感覺？
□喜悅，因為在付出時我已有喜悅的感覺
□不開心，因為付出意味著我失去了一些東西
□沒有多大的感覺，因為我的付出隻是得到別人認同的一種手段
□其他
2．當我見到他人快樂時，我會：
□沒有多大關係，因為這隻是他人的快樂
□感到愉快，因為我快樂著別人的快樂
□感到不快，我會因別人擁有我所沒有的東西而不快
□其他
何謂喜悅
正如一句話所說：“你賺來的錢不是你的，隻有你花出去的錢才是你的。”這句話告訴我們，擁有不會令你喜悅，唯有將你擁有的與別人分享，你才會感到喜悅。當你將擁有的與其他人分享，從別人身上看到他們的需要得到滿足時，那份喜悅足以令你永生難忘。
付出的人內心洋溢著喜悅，因為付出是自願和主動的。他們會把焦點放在對方身上，如果看到支持的人有些許進步，付出的人也會喜不自勝。付出所產生的作用是成全別人，滿足自己，付出賦予人一種幸福和快樂的根據。所以當你看到別人因你的付出而快樂時，你也會因感受別人的快樂而快樂。
練習（一）
回想你喜悅的時候
回想你在兒時最喜悅的時刻，請從下麵的表格中，選取和你最喜悅時刻有關的項目。
請從上表中選取三件你最喜悅的有關付出的事情，然後記錄在這些事情中，什麽人的付出讓你產生喜悅，又有什麽人與你分享了這一份喜悅。
事件（一）
事件內容：
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什麽人與你分享了這份喜悅？
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當你與別人分享喜悅時，你的感受是什麽？
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當你付出時，你有多大程度的喜悅？（1——最不喜悅，5——最喜悅）
付出的起點是他人，是一種凡事為他人考慮、成就他人的心態。
索取的焦點是自己，是一種“你能夠給我什麽”的思考模式。
在這次事件中，有什麽人向你索取？
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當別人向你索取時，你的心情是怎樣的？
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反觀自己，你是否有向他人索取？
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當你向別人索取時，描述一下你當時的心情。
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當你索取時，你有多大程度的喜悅？（1——最不喜悅，5——最喜悅）
事件（二）
事件內容：
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有什麽人與你分享這份喜悅？
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當你付出時，你有多大程度的喜悅？（1——最不喜悅，5——最喜悅）
付出的起點是他人，是一種凡事為他人考慮、成就他人的心態。
索取的焦點是自己，是一種“你能夠給我什麽”的思考模式。
在這次事件中，有什麽人向你索取？
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他（她）是誰？__________________________________
當別人向你索取時，你的心情是怎樣的？
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反觀自己，你是否有向他人索取？
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當你向別人索取時，描述一下你當時的心情。
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當你索取時，你有多大程度的喜悅？（1——最不喜悅，5——最喜悅）
事件（三）
事件內容：
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當你與別人分享喜悅時，你的感受是什麽？
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當你付出時，你有多大程度的喜悅？（1——最不喜悅，5——最喜悅）
付出的起點是他人，是一種凡事為他人考慮、成就他人的心態。
索取的焦點是自己，是一種“你能夠給我什麽”的思考模式。
在這次事件中，有什麽人向你索取？
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他（她）是誰？__________________________________
當別人向你索取時，你的心情是怎樣的？
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反觀自己，你是否有向他人索取？
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當你向別人索取時，描述一下你當時的心情。
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當你索取時，你有多大程度的喜悅？（1——最不喜悅，5——最喜悅）
完成以上的練習後，你有什麽發現？你會發現一個事實：付出比索取更能讓人喜悅。付出者看到分享者的快樂時，他們也會因為分享者的快樂而快樂，分享者也因付出者的付出而快樂。你會體會到付出者和接受者是同樣喜悅的。
小時候，父母或其他長輩送禮物給你，在你喜出望外的時候，他們看到你那麽快樂，也會跟你一樣喜悅。當時他們並沒有指望你會給他們什麽回報，這是一個永恒不變的道理：付出令別人喜悅，也令付出的人喜悅。你想成為這個喜悅的源頭嗎？你想把喜悅延伸下去嗎？
練習（二）
現在你需要從日常生活中，找回這一份喜悅。未來的一周內，記下你曾為哪些人付出，以及當時的感受。你的付出練習對象需要是一些平常對你不太友好的人，甚至是一些你不喜歡的人。你的付出可以是送他們一份小禮物，也可以是一句簡單問候。在這一周內，請你體會一下，你每天對於快樂的感受有什麽不同。
現在請你總結，當你為家人付出時，他們有多少次的反應是快樂的，有多少次是不快樂的。請你用百分比計算，並以柱狀圖的形式記錄下來。
當你看到家人快樂時，你的感受是怎樣的？
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當你看到家人不快樂時，你有什麽感受？
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現在請你總結，當你為朋友付出時，他們有多少次的反應是快樂的，有多少次是不快樂的。請你用百分比計算，並以柱狀圖的形式記錄下來。
當你看到朋友快樂時，你的感受是怎樣的？
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當你看到朋友不快樂時，你有什麽感受？
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現在請你總結，當你為同事付出時，他們有多少次的反應是快樂的，有多少次是不快樂的。請你用百分比計算，並以柱狀圖的形式記錄下來。
當你看到同事快樂時，你的感受是怎樣的？
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當你看到同事不快樂時，你有什麽感受？
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現在請你總結，當你為其他人付出時，他們有多少次的反應是快樂的，有多少次是不快樂的。請你用百分比計算，並以柱狀圖的形式記錄下來。
當你看到其他人快樂時，你的感受是怎樣的？
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當你看到其他人不快樂時，你有什麽感受？
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你認為怎樣才能永遠擁有這份喜悅？
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你希望永遠擁有這份喜悅嗎？
□是，請詳列原因：
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□否，請詳列原因：
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請你寫下永遠擁有這份喜悅的計劃。
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在過去一周的練習中，相信你已經曆了一些快樂與不快樂的時段，試畫出本周內你的快樂程度時間線。看看你哪些時段是快樂的，哪些時段是不快樂的。
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現在，請把你的時間線畫出來。
在快樂指數最高的日子裏，你做了哪些事情？
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在快樂指數最低的日子裏，你做了哪些事情？
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你認為這些喜悅與你的付出有關嗎？
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小結
相信你已在這一周的練習中，深深體會到那份基於付出所擁有的喜悅。請你謹記這份喜悅，它能時刻提醒你，無論什麽時候，付出充滿喜悅。無論你擁有多少，假如你的生命中缺少付出，你的喜悅依然是不足的。
進度檢視
恭喜你，你已經完成了“喜悅”部分的練習，現在，請你檢視以下有關“喜悅”的達成度情況（請選出符合你的情況的選項，並用圓圈圈出）。
1．做到喜悅地付出。
2．了解在付出的同時也會有喜悅的心情。
注意！別忘了返回本階段的“第一次檢視”（第80頁）部分，完成你的檢視。