You will continually attract the same lesson into your life. You will also draw to your teachers to teach you that lesson until you get it right. You may try to avoid the situation， but they will eventually catch up with you. The only way you can free yourself of difficult patterns and issues you tend to repeat is by shifting your perspective so that you can recognize the patterns and learn the lessons that they offer. To face these challenges means you need to accept the fact that something within you keeps drawing you to the same kind of person or issue， though that situation or relationship may be very painful.
The challenge， therefore， is to identify and release the patterns that you are repeating. This is no easy task， since it means you have to change， and change is not always easy. Staying just as you are may not help you advance spiritually， but it certainly is comfortable in its familiarity.
Rising to the challenge of identifying and releasing your patterns forces you to admit that the way you have been doing things isn’t working. The good news is that by identifying and releasing the pattern， you actually learn how to change. In order to facilitate your process of change， you will need to learn the lessons of willingness and patience. Once you master these， you will most likely find the challenge of identifying and releasing your patterns far less intimidating.
The real secret to being able to change is the willingness to do so. If you are to make any progress in excavating yourself from the cycles that entrap you， you must first identify the patterns that keep you stuck. Then you can begin to release the old behaviors.
If you truly want to change， you will choose to do it， and make a commitment to the process of it. However， if you rely on the thought that you should change， you will make the decision to do so and then you will feel the pinch of sacrifice. Following the current trends， the advice of friends， or the wishes of family members result in decision； following your inner compass results in choice.
So when you are struggling to make a change in your life， ask yourself， “How willing am I， really， to make this change？” If you are not succeeding， there’s a good chance that you may be relying on your belief that you should change， rather than on your intrinsic desire to do so.
Patience is the display of tolerance while awaiting an outcome. You are presented with the lesson of patience the moment you try to create a change within yourself. You expect immediate results and are often disappointed when your first few attempts to follow through fall short. When people who try to lose weight cheat on their diets， they get very frustrated with themselves for not being able to stay with their new eating regime and berate themselves for not changing their patterns.
As you already know， change is rarely easy， and you need to exercise gentleness and patience with yourself as you work your way through this process. Growth can be a slow， painstaking process and patience will provide you with the stamina you need to become the person you want to be.
If you absolutely hate getting stuck in traffic， chances are that you need a little work in the area of patience. And， chances are， you will probably get stuck in more traffic jams than someone who has no issue with patience—and not simply because the universe has a sense of humor. You still just notice the traffic more than someone who has more patience.
Remember， a lesson will be repeated until learned. It just takes a little patience.
你是否曾注意到，生活中的教訓總是重複出現。這看起來是不是就像與你結婚或多次約會的始終是同一個人，隻不過是身材和名字不同罷了呢？你是否曾多次遇到類型相似的老板呢？如果你無法與家中的掌權者處理好關係，那麽，你在外麵的世界同樣會遇到這種狀況。你的生活會不斷地陷入強權者的控製中，而且，你會一直與之對抗，直到學會服從為止。
在你的生活中，會不斷地出現相同的教訓。你會有老師前來教你，直到你完全明白為止。你可能會努力避免這種情形，但終究會身陷其中。唯一能讓你從這些不斷重複的艱難模式和問題中解脫出來的方法是：轉變你的觀念，這樣你就能認清這些模式，並從中汲取教訓。直麵這些挑戰意味著你要接受一個事實：你自身的某些因素使你的生活重複出現相同類型的人或問題，盡管你可能會為這種情形或關係備感痛苦。
所以，這個挑戰就是要辨明你不斷重複的行為模式，並從中解脫。這是一個艱巨的任務，因為，它意味著你必須作出改變，而改變往往不容易，但停滯不前也不利於你心靈的成長，雖然它確實讓你有舒適的熟悉感。
麵對這個挑戰，要辨明自己的行為模式，並從中解脫，那麽，你必須承認，你過去曾有過某種行不通的行為方式。可喜的是，通過這種模式，你能真正學會如何去改變。為了協助你改變的進程，你能學會積極和忍耐。一旦掌握了這些，你很可能會發現，辨明這種模式並不是特別困難。
改變的真正秘訣是你願意這樣去做。如果你在掙脫困住你的模式的過程中取得了任何進展，那你首先應該辨明被困的模式，然後開始擺脫以前的習慣。
如果你真正想改變，就要選擇去做，並真正付諸行動。但是，如果你隻是覺得自己應該改變，就要下定決心。然後，你會感受到犧牲的痛苦。跟隨當今的潮流，聽從朋友的建議，或迫於家人的期望，都會促使你作出決定，而你應該在心靈羅盤的指引下來選擇。
所以，當你努力想改變生活時，先捫心自問：“我想作出這個改變的決心到底有多大？”如果你沒有答案，那麽，你很可能應該改變，但在你的內心深處並沒有這種渴望。
耐心是在等待結果時顯示出來的承受力。一旦你準備改變自我，就要耐心麵對。你期望立刻有結果，並往往會為開始幾次嚐試的失敗而沮喪。當人們試著減肥，卻無法抗拒美食時，便會對自己不能執行新的飲食計劃而備感失望，並為不能改變生活模式而自責不已。
正如你所知，改變通常很艱難。當你處於改變的過程中時，要對自己寬容，並耐心地去練習。成長是一個緩慢而艱苦的過程，耐心會讓你更有毅力，幫助你去做自己想做的人。
如果你對堵車深惡痛絕，那麽你應該多培養自己的耐心。另外，你可能會比那些有耐心的人更頻繁地遭遇堵車——不是因為上天捉弄你，而是與那些有耐心的人比起來，你對堵車更在意。
記住，一個教訓總會反複出現，直到你學會為止。它隻不過更需要一點兒耐心而已。
心靈小語
不要隻因一次失敗，就放棄你原來決心想要達到的目標。
記憶填空
1. You will continually attract the same__ into your life. You will also draw to your teachers to__ you that lesson until you get it__. You may try to avoid the situation， but they will eventually catch up__ you. The only way you can__ yourself of difficult patterns and issues you tend to repeat is by shifting your perspective so that you can recognize the patterns and__ the lessons that they offer.
2. So__ you are struggling to make a__ in your life， ask yourself， “How willing am I， really， to make this change？”If you are not succeeding， there’s a good__ that you may be relying on your belief that you should change， rather than on your intrinsic desire to do__.
佳句翻譯
1. 改變的真正秘訣是你願意這樣去做。
譯______________
2. 耐心是在等待結果時顯示出來的承受力。
譯______________
3. 成長是一個緩慢而艱苦的過程，耐心會讓你更有毅力，幫助你去做自己想做的人。